Hey, Love!

Let’s talk about something we’ve all felt at some point… mom guilt. It creeps in quietly, often when you’re just trying to get through the day, and it whispers all the ways you think you’re not doing enough. The truth? Mom guilt is so common because we care so deeply. But that doesn’t mean we have to live with it forever.

Why Mom Guilt Happens

Mom guilt thrives on the unrealistic expectations we place on ourselves. Somewhere along the way, we picked up the idea that being a good mom means being perfect… always present, always patient, always doing everything for everyone. And when we fall short (because, let’s be real, we’re human), guilt swoops in to remind us of all the ways we think we’re failing. 

It doesn’t help that we’re surrounded by highlight reels… pictures of smiling families, spotless homes, and Pinterest-worthy activities. It’s easy to compare yourself and feel like you’re coming up short. But here’s the thing… what you see on the outside is only part of the story. 

The Cost of Carrying Guilt

Carrying mom guilt is like walking around with a heavy backpack you can never take off. It weighs you down, zaps your energy, and makes it harder to enjoy the beautiful moments in front of you. I’ve been there, feeling like I wasn’t doing enough for my kids, even when I was giving them everything I had. But her’s what I’ve learned… guilt doesn’t make us better moms. It just keeps us stuck. 

How to Start Letting It Go

Letting go of mom guilt doesn’t happen overnight, but small steps can make a big difference. Here are some things that have helped me… 

  • Reframe Your Thoughts: Instead of focusing on what you didn’t do, celebrate what you did do. You can’t be everything to everyone, and that’s okay. 
  • Set Realistic Expectations: Give yourself permission to be human. Sometimes dinner is gourmet… sometimes it’s cereal. Both are acts of love.  
  • Take a Moment for Yourself: Whether it’s slipping into your favorite cozy sweats or pausing with a calming scent, taking care of you isn’t selfish… it’s necessary. 
  • Focus on Connection Over Perfection: Your kids don’t need a perfect mom… they need you. Being present in the small moments matters more than any grand gesture.  

The Freedom in Letting Go 

When you start to let go of mom guilt, you make space for something far more important… joy. You realize that being a good mom doesn’t mean doing everything right… it means loving your kids and yourself the best way you can. And when you let go of guilt, you show your kids that it’s okay to be imperfect, too. 

A Gentle Reminder 

If you’re carrying mom guilt today, let me remind you… you’re already doing enough. The fact that you care so deeply means you’re an incredible mom. Letting go of guilt isn’t about doing less… it’s about recognizing how much you’re already giving and choosing to give yourself grace.  

You’ve got this, Love!  

 

Jen Miller

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