Hey, Love!

Taking time for yourself can feel impossible when guilt and self-doubt sneak in. The voice in your head might whisper, “You should be doing more.” Or worse, “You don’t deserve a break.” But here’s the truth… you absolutely do. In fact, the more you feel like you don’t deserve time for yourself, the more you probably need it. 

Giving yourself time and care isn’t selfish… it’s necessary. It’s what helps you recharge so you can show up as the best version of yourself. And when you prioritize your well-being, it benefits everyone around you. Here are a few gentle ways to start taking that time, even when it feels hard to believe you’re worth it.

1. Reframe “Deserving” as “Needing”

When guilt creeps in, remind yourself that taking time for yourself isn’t about whether or not you’ve “earned” it. It’s about what you need to be well. Just like you wouldn’t ask a phone to keep running on a low battery, you can’t expect yourself to pour from an empty cup. Reframing your thinking from “Do I deserve this?” to “Do I need this?” can make all the difference.

2. Start with 5 Minutes

Taking time for yourself doesn’t have to mean hours away or a big, elaborate plan. Start small… five minutes to step outside, breathe fresh air, or simply sit in silence. These moments of care remind you that even on the busiest days, you’re allowed to take up space in your own life.

3. Create a “Non-Negotiable Ritual”

Pick one small thing you’ll do for yourself every day, no matter what. Maybe it’s a morning stretch, journaling before bed, or sipping your favorite tea without distractions. Having a non-negotiable ritual reinforces that your needs are just as important as everything else on your to-do list. 

4. Imagine You’re Speaking to a Friend

If a friend told you they didn’t think they deserved to take time for themselves, what would you say? You’d probably remind them how hard they work and how much they matter. Now, imagine saying those words to yourself. Being kind to yourself isn’t indulgent… it’s necessary. 

5. Write Down What Recharges You

Sometimes, the hardest part of taking time for yourself is figuring out where to start. Take a few minutes to list the things that make you feel calm, energized, or happy. Keep it somewhere you can see it, and choose one thing to do when you’re feeling drained. 

6. Challenge the Guilt

When guilt sneaks in, ask yourself… “Who benefits when I don’t take care of myself?” The answer is no one. Guilt may tell you that you’re being selfish, but the truth is, taking care of yourself helps you show up better for the people and things that matter most. 

7. Trust That You’re Worth It

Believing you deserve time for yourself isn’t something that happens overnight. It’s a practice… one small step at a time. With each moment you give yourself, you’re reinforcing the truth… you are worth care, attention, and rest. 

It’s Okay to Take Up Space

On the hardest days, remind yourself that you matter. Your needs, your peace, your time… they all matter. Taking time for yourself isn’t selfish… it’s a gift to yourself and to the people who care about you. 

And if you’re looking for a supportive space to explore this journey we’d love to have you in our group. You don’t have to navigate this alone. <3