Hey, Love!
There are days when I feel completely drained… when my energy, patience, and emotional reserves are running on fumes. And yet, my kids still need me. They look to me for love, guidance, and presence, even on the days when I feel like I have nothing left to give.
If you’ve ever felt this way, I want you to know you’re not alone. Over the years, I’ve learned that showing up for my kids doesn’t mean being perfect or giving every last bit of myself. In fact, it’s about finding ways to be present for them while also giving myself grace.
Here are some gentle, practical ways, I’ve found to show up for my kids while honoring my own need for rest and care.
1. Prioritize Small Moments of Connection
On my hardest days, I focus on the small, intentional moments that don’t take much energy but mean so much. Sitting together on the couch, holding their hand, or just listening to them talk about their day reminds me that connection doesn’t have to be complicated to matter.
2. Lean on Routines
Routines have been my saving grace when I feel empty. Whether it’s our slow paced mornings, or our 11 a.m. homeschool day start time, these familiar moments give my kids the structure they need while giving me one less thing to think about.
3. Be Honest, but Age-Appropriate
I’ve found that it’s okay to let my kids know when I’m having a hard day, as long as I keep it simple and age-appropriate. I might say, “Mom’s feeling a little tired today, but I’m still here for you.” I want them to know it’s okay to have tough days, and that love is constant, even when energy isn’t.
4. Create Quiet Together Time
When my energy is low, I lean into quiet activities we can do together… like coloring, working on a puzzle, watching a favorite movie, or playing a videogame together. These moments still let me connect with my kids without pushing myself too hard, and honestly, they’re some of the most peaceful parts of my day.
5. Ask for Help Where You Can
As a mom, it’s not always easy to ask for help, but I’ve learned it’s necessary. Whether it’s leaning on my husband or asking a family member or friend for a hand, seeking support reminds me that I don’t have to do it all alone.
6. Focus on What You Can Do
There have been days when I’ve felt overwhelmed by everything I wasn’t doing. But I’ve learned to shift my focus to what I can do… packing a lunch, giving a hug, or telling my kids I love them. Those small acts matter more than I sometimes realize.
7. Be Kind to Yourself
If there’s one thing I’ve had to remind myself often, it’s this… Parenting doesn’t have to be perfect to be good. On the days when I feel empty, I try to give myself the same grace I’d give to a friend. I may not get everything right, but I’m still showing up… and that’s enough.
Showing Up Isn’t About Being Perfect
Even on my hardest days, I know my love for my kids shines through in the little ways I show up. Parenting isn’t about perfection… it’s about being present, even when you’re running on empty. If you’re feeling like you need support, I want you to know you’re not alone. Our group is here to lift each other up on the hard days. Together, we can find strength to keep showing up.
