Hey, Love!

Let’s get real for a second… motherhood is like juggling flaming swords while riding a unicycle. And on top of that, we’re supposed to be kind to ourselves… Yeah… okay… But guess what? It’s totally doable, and I’m here to show you how with things I practice myself! <3

What the Heck is Self-Compassion Anyway?

Think of self-compassion as giving yourself a big ol’ bear hug, minus the awkwardness. It’s about treating yourself with the same kindness you’d offer your BFF after she spills coffee on her white shirt. And here’s the kicker… science says it boosts your mood, lowers anxiety, and makes you feel like a superhero in comfy sweats… Who wouldn’t want that?

The Three Pillars of Self-Compassion

1. Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment

• Picture this: You burn dinner. Self-judgment says, “You’re the worst cook ever.” Self-kindness says, “It happens, and pizza exists for a reason.” See the difference?

2. Common Humanity vs. Isolation

• When your kiddo has a meltdown in the grocery store, remember you’re not alone… every mom in that store has been there with you, and even though society likes to divide us, we truly are all part of this wild ride together.

3. Mindfulness vs. Over-Identification

• Instead of spiraling into “I’m a terrible mom” thoughts, take a deep breath and observe your feelings without judgement. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling.

My Tips for Cultivating Self-Compassion

1. Talk to Yourself Like a Friend

• Next time you mess up, ask yourself what you’d say to your best friend in the same situation. Spoiler: You wouldn’t call her an idiot.

2. Daily Affirmations

• Stick Post-its with affirmations on your mirror, fridge, or even your teenager’s forehead (kidding!). Remind yourself daily that you’re doing your best. 

3. Mindful Moments

• Set a timer for a 5-minute break to just breathe and be. Even if your mind wanders to 57 different things, it’s all good!
  

4. Write Yourself a Love Letter

• Write a letter to yourself highlighting all the things you love about you. Yes, it feels slightly cheesy, but it IS super powerful.

7-Day Self-Compassion Challenge

Each day, do one small act of self-kindness. It can be as simple as enjoying a cup of coffee without multitasking or taking a 5-minute walk. At the end of each week, jot down how these small acts made you feel. You might be surprised at the difference!

You’ve Got This, Mama!

Remember, Love, self-compassion isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being kind to yourself, even when things get messy. You’re doing an amazing job, and don’t you forget it!